I often find myself envious of those who seem unaffected by their own emotional wounds, oblivious to the deeper layers of their being that remain unhealed. I'm not referring to physical injuries like a broken arm, but rather the intricate fragments of past traumas that linger within us, often disguised so subtly that most people don't even recognize the need for healing.
It's the individuals who, when asked about their well-being and upbringing, confidently claim to have had a good life and express happiness. I envy them, not because I believe their claims are genuine, but because I know deep down they are deceiving themselves. Their sense of peace is fragile, easily shattered at the slightest hint of change. They crumble into a victim mentality, consumed by discomfort, lost in their own despair.
When one's happiness solely depends on the shallow aspects of life—family, relationships, or a job—they unwittingly expose themselves to immense suffering. Happiness derived from external sources is fleeting, as life is ever-changing and unpredictable.
Removing the belief that outer experiences determine our happiness awakens us to the realm of energy and emotions. It transports us to a raw and authentic version of ourselves. Any part of us that derives joy, peace, or pleasure solely from external events becomes ungrounded because life is not stagnant.
A poignant comment from my mother resonates with me, forever altering my perspective. She once expressed her assumption that life would always remain the same, with her children constantly surrounding her. However, after the passing of her husband and her children moving to different states, she was confronted with solitude. To this day, she puts on a facade of contentment while deep down, I can sense her profound unhappiness.
The realization of this illusion prompts us to embark on a journey of self-discovery and true healing. By peeling away the layers of attachment to external identities, we uncover the essence of our spirit—the authentic self that lies beneath the ephemeral externalities of life. It is in this space that we find lasting peace, joy, and fulfillment.
So let us embrace the challenge of facing our inner wounds, engaging in the healing process that goes beyond the surface. By doing so, we embark on a transformative path towards true authenticity and a genuine connection with ourselves and the world around us.