The final transformation that can truly bring about healing, once and for all, is the realization of a significant identity: the victim code. This particular identity has proven to be one of the most devastating factors that keep humanity trapped in a perpetual cycle.
Here's why:
It's incredibly enticing to immerse ourselves in narratives that bolster our own character while simultaneously setting us apart from others, allowing us to feel like superior beings in this world. Blaming and directing our anger towards offenders offers a sense of superiority, but in reality, it silently nurtures one of the most perilous pain bodies known to humankind.
If left unresolved, this addiction becomes the root cause of numerous destructive behaviors, toxic relationships, and financial struggles. The secret code ingrains the belief that we are entitled to more love and attention than those we perceive as offenders, thereby fostering a punishing atmosphere around them.
However, when we establish a system of punishment, we are only inflicting harm upon ourselves. By causing suffering to others, we simultaneously generate our own suffering. Unfortunately, the ego craves superiority, desiring to perceive itself as faultless, never having caused harm to anyone and achieving perfect equilibrium in life.
To break free from the victim code, we must redirect the blame inward and examine the unhealed traumas that lie beneath the surface. This isn't about self-blame, as that wouldn't solve anything either. Instead, it's about delving into the core of the problem, rather than fixating on its external manifestations.
By choosing not to blame and refusing to remain victims, we open the path to healing. Only then can the cycle be broken, enabling true transformation and growth for everyone involved.